Should I be concerned about my uncircumscised son's penis, which our practitioner mentioned has a tight skin?

I had chosen not to have my one male child circumscised. He's 4 1/2 now. However, without any men around us to compare with or consult with, I'm wondering about what the practitioner said at his last well-child check-up. Should I really be instructing my son on manipulating the skin, pulling it back, or should the whole thing be left alone? The truth is that we never think much about it. Will it not be right when he grows older if he doesn't play around with it now and practice pulling the skin back? Any advice or experience would be helpful. I'm a single mom and I actually do not know anything about this topic.

Should I be concerned about my uncircumscised son's penis, which our practitioner mentioned has a tight skin?
I was worried about my 2 year old's foreskin not retracting like one doctor said it should, so I did some research on the net. I found a site, which I'm not sure if I can find again, that said that the foreskin really doesn't retract fully until late teens, early twenties. Before then, it should not be forced back. The "tightness" of the foreskin and the "small" opening is a safety shield against germs. It is normal for the tip to be a little bit pink. To help avoid infections, make sure he doesn't have too many bubble baths, as the detergent can cause irritation.


I really think a lot of doctors are not well educated regarding the workings of the foreskin and are too quick to recommend they have it snipped.


In my opinion the foreskin retracting so late could've been the body's way of ensuring the young man didn't have sex until he was "fully matured", when the foreskin retracted fully. That's my theory anyway.
Reply:Here are some sites that will help you.





http://www.fathermag.com/health/boy-care...


http://www.menshealth.co.uk/news/story.p...
Reply:nah..i..dont think....mines pretty tight..but im not sure if i was circumsized or not...hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..
Reply:Yes, you should be concerned; it could cause painful sores later, and he may be forced to have a circumcision to rid them. Circumcision can be done at any age.
Reply:That is disturbing to read ugh ouch! If you would've done it when he was born, he wouldn't go in life remembering or thinking about it, but now if he has to have it circumcised he will remember that and that is one of the memories you don't want to remember. If this would have been taken care of when he was born this would have and would been easier on both of you, especially him.
Reply:you must be concerned of it..be your son circumcised or else when he is grown up from adolescent to a full and mature man ready to fall in love, ready to go on dating, and ready to get a wife..SHE WILL BLAME YOU FOR THE PROBLEM HE WILL BE ENCOUNTERING as a consequence for not being circumcised..believe me..
Reply:I know quite a few guys that complain about their foreskin hurting %26amp; being too tight. You should try to get your son's foreskin cut, you might be saving him from discomfort later on.





Oops, that is true..your son is now old enough to have long term memory! Hmmm.
Reply:is uncessary to circumscised your son's penis unless his penis has a tight skin.because i dont circumscised mine, i dont like and afraid to be circumscised, and it just fine till now ,as long i discipline cleaning my penis regularly.





why some religion / doctor suggest men to circumcsise their penis ?


because tight skin = %26gt; hardly clean = %26gt; dirty = %26gt; bacteria = %26gt; could infected himself / anyone who s e x with him.
Reply:Go ask a doctor. this is an inappropriate question for YA
Reply:i'm a single mom too... my son knows how to pull it back.. he is 2. i have taught him to only pull it back while int eh cath tub after he washes his hands.. my brother was *cut* ither but he would never pull his back and was always complaing that it hurts... but now that he is 17 it is better..but he was about 11 or 12 when he didn't want to pull it back.. hope this helps.. but i think you should teach your son to pull it back as it does need to be cleaned everyday...
Reply:WELL IF THE SKIN IS NOT PULLED BACK ALL THE TIME AND WASHED





REALLY WELL THE PENIS CAN GET INFECTED AND THE SKIN CAN





ACTUALLY GROW TOGETHER.





WHY DIDN'T YOU GET HIM CIRCUMCISED?





IT WOULD HAVE BEEN EASIER IF YOU HAD OF.





I THINK YOU SHOULD BE KEEPING IT PULLED BACK AND KEEP IT CLEAN.


JUST THINK OF THE PAIN HE WILL GO THROUGH IF IT IS NOT WASHED WELL AND PULLED BACK?


INFECTION=PAIN





A 4 YEAR OLD IS NOT GOING TO BE KEEPING IT PULLED BACK ALL THE TIME.


YOUR THE ONE WHO IS GOING TO HAVE TO DO IT.


HE IS YOUR SON, IT IS NOT SICKENING TO HELP HIM OUT.


UNTIL HE CAN DO IT OWN HIS OWN= WHICH SHOULD HAPPEN ABOUT THE TIME HE GOES TO SCHOOL.





HE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND ALL OF THAT.





YOU NEED TO KEEP IT CLEAN AND PULLED BACK
Reply:well if he has no problem in urinating or does not suffer from urinary tract infection, which manifest as burning micturation, frequency n the child holding his penis all the time, then no need to go for circumcision.
Reply:He needs to learn to pull the foreskin back in any event while bathing in order to keep the area clean. It should never be forced or manipulated painfully, but he should begin learning to move it while bathing so that it just becomes part of the daily routine. (And by the by, you might do well to get a shower card with testicular self-exam instructions when he's older as well.) Maybe you could work into it with a children's book on how the body works, and cleaning different parts of the body? My husband, who is uncircumcised, got a rather nasty bladder infection when he was about 10 or 11 and had to learn that then, so it is only to your son's good to learn to wash that way now, and it may assist with the tight foreskin issue which sometimes is not actually an issue. I will warn you that some men do wind up having to be circumcised later in life due to issues with the foreskin, which as I understand it is far more painful, but I think the cleanliness issue is more important than the supposed "tight foreskin," he's probably young yet to see if that's a problem.





If you don't feel comfortable instructing your son, you could try getting your doctor or a *really* trusted male with you very nearby(ie, your dad or brother) to do that, but your practitioner probably told you to instruct him for the child's comfort level.