I had chosen not to have my one male child circumscised. He's 4 1/2 now. However, without any men around us to compare with or consult with, I'm wondering about what the practitioner said at his last well-child check-up. Should I really be instructing my son on manipulating the skin, pulling it back, or should the whole thing be left alone? The truth is that we never think much about it. Will it not be right when he grows older if he doesn't play around with it now and practice pulling the skin back? Any advice or experience would be helpful. I'm a single mom and I actually do not know anything about this topic.
Should I be concerned about my uncircumscised son's penis, which our practitioner mentioned has a tight skin?
I was worried about my 2 year old's foreskin not retracting like one doctor said it should, so I did some research on the net. I found a site, which I'm not sure if I can find again, that said that the foreskin really doesn't retract fully until late teens, early twenties. Before then, it should not be forced back. The "tightness" of the foreskin and the "small" opening is a safety shield against germs. It is normal for the tip to be a little bit pink. To help avoid infections, make sure he doesn't have too many bubble baths, as the detergent can cause irritation.
I really think a lot of doctors are not well educated regarding the workings of the foreskin and are too quick to recommend they have it snipped.
In my opinion the foreskin retracting so late could've been the body's way of ensuring the young man didn't have sex until he was "fully matured", when the foreskin retracted fully. That's my theory anyway.
Reply:Here are some sites that will help you.
http://www.fathermag.com/health/boy-care...
http://www.menshealth.co.uk/news/story.p...
Reply:nah..i..dont think....mines pretty tight..but im not sure if i was circumsized or not...hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..
Reply:Yes, you should be concerned; it could cause painful sores later, and he may be forced to have a circumcision to rid them. Circumcision can be done at any age.
Reply:That is disturbing to read ugh ouch! If you would've done it when he was born, he wouldn't go in life remembering or thinking about it, but now if he has to have it circumcised he will remember that and that is one of the memories you don't want to remember. If this would have been taken care of when he was born this would have and would been easier on both of you, especially him.
Reply:you must be concerned of it..be your son circumcised or else when he is grown up from adolescent to a full and mature man ready to fall in love, ready to go on dating, and ready to get a wife..SHE WILL BLAME YOU FOR THE PROBLEM HE WILL BE ENCOUNTERING as a consequence for not being circumcised..believe me..
Reply:I know quite a few guys that complain about their foreskin hurting %26amp; being too tight. You should try to get your son's foreskin cut, you might be saving him from discomfort later on.
Oops, that is true..your son is now old enough to have long term memory! Hmmm.
Reply:is uncessary to circumscised your son's penis unless his penis has a tight skin.because i dont circumscised mine, i dont like and afraid to be circumscised, and it just fine till now ,as long i discipline cleaning my penis regularly.
why some religion / doctor suggest men to circumcsise their penis ?
because tight skin = %26gt; hardly clean = %26gt; dirty = %26gt; bacteria = %26gt; could infected himself / anyone who s e x with him.
Reply:Go ask a doctor. this is an inappropriate question for YA
Reply:i'm a single mom too... my son knows how to pull it back.. he is 2. i have taught him to only pull it back while int eh cath tub after he washes his hands.. my brother was *cut* ither but he would never pull his back and was always complaing that it hurts... but now that he is 17 it is better..but he was about 11 or 12 when he didn't want to pull it back.. hope this helps.. but i think you should teach your son to pull it back as it does need to be cleaned everyday...
Reply:WELL IF THE SKIN IS NOT PULLED BACK ALL THE TIME AND WASHED
REALLY WELL THE PENIS CAN GET INFECTED AND THE SKIN CAN
ACTUALLY GROW TOGETHER.
WHY DIDN'T YOU GET HIM CIRCUMCISED?
IT WOULD HAVE BEEN EASIER IF YOU HAD OF.
I THINK YOU SHOULD BE KEEPING IT PULLED BACK AND KEEP IT CLEAN.
JUST THINK OF THE PAIN HE WILL GO THROUGH IF IT IS NOT WASHED WELL AND PULLED BACK?
INFECTION=PAIN
A 4 YEAR OLD IS NOT GOING TO BE KEEPING IT PULLED BACK ALL THE TIME.
YOUR THE ONE WHO IS GOING TO HAVE TO DO IT.
HE IS YOUR SON, IT IS NOT SICKENING TO HELP HIM OUT.
UNTIL HE CAN DO IT OWN HIS OWN= WHICH SHOULD HAPPEN ABOUT THE TIME HE GOES TO SCHOOL.
HE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND ALL OF THAT.
YOU NEED TO KEEP IT CLEAN AND PULLED BACK
Reply:well if he has no problem in urinating or does not suffer from urinary tract infection, which manifest as burning micturation, frequency n the child holding his penis all the time, then no need to go for circumcision.
Reply:He needs to learn to pull the foreskin back in any event while bathing in order to keep the area clean. It should never be forced or manipulated painfully, but he should begin learning to move it while bathing so that it just becomes part of the daily routine. (And by the by, you might do well to get a shower card with testicular self-exam instructions when he's older as well.) Maybe you could work into it with a children's book on how the body works, and cleaning different parts of the body? My husband, who is uncircumcised, got a rather nasty bladder infection when he was about 10 or 11 and had to learn that then, so it is only to your son's good to learn to wash that way now, and it may assist with the tight foreskin issue which sometimes is not actually an issue. I will warn you that some men do wind up having to be circumcised later in life due to issues with the foreskin, which as I understand it is far more painful, but I think the cleanliness issue is more important than the supposed "tight foreskin," he's probably young yet to see if that's a problem.
If you don't feel comfortable instructing your son, you could try getting your doctor or a *really* trusted male with you very nearby(ie, your dad or brother) to do that, but your practitioner probably told you to instruct him for the child's comfort level.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
I am 27 years old male. I am having a lot of trouble during sexual intercourse. My fore skin gets very tight?
I am 27 years old male. I am having a lot of trouble during sexual intercourse. My fore skin gets very tight when penis is erect and upon having sex it gets cut and that is very painful. Due to this problem I am not able to have sex. I have no problems of erection or any other disorder. My close friend advised me to get circumcised. Is that the only option? If not what do you advise?
I am 27 years old male. I am having a lot of trouble during sexual intercourse. My fore skin gets very tight?
Hi,
Application of coconut oil on the glans and then attempting retraction may benefit you. You may try it for a couple of weeks. If the problem still persists, circumcision by a competent plastic surgeon would be the option. However till then, you can wear a condom and then have sexual intercourse. This will prevent any movement of your foreskin and thereby there won’t be any cuts and intercourse would be painless!
Enjoy Life,
Dr.Mojo
Reply:Sounds like Phimosis
http://www.glansie.com/
Many men suffer from phimosis - a tight foreskin which cannot be retracted naturally. Glansie allows you to cure phimosis naturally in the comfort of your own home:
Improve arousal during sexual intercourse
Stop any chance of infection under the foreskin
No surgery, no doctors
Money back guarantee
Phimosis is a medical condition, occurring in many un-circumcised men, in which the foreskin cannot be fully retracted over the head of the penis. The condition is
embarrassing and reduces sensitivity of the penis during sexual intercourse.
Commonly it may also lead to infection of the head of the penis, causing irritation and discharge.
The tightening of the foreskin is caused by a tight preputial ring, a band of fibrous tissue at the end of the foreskin. Glansie allows you to stretch the preputial ring, gradually increasing the amount by which the foreskin can be retracted. This is a completely natural process, accomplished in the comfort of your own home.
Circumcision:
http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/ci...
Definition
Circumcision is the surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis. It is often performed in healthy boys for cultural or religious reasons. In the U.S., circumcision of a newborn boy is usually done before he leaves the hospital. Jewish boys, however, are circumcised when they are 8 days old.
The merits of circumcision are currently under debate. There is NOT a compelling medical rationale for the procedure in healthy boys. However, some boys have medical conditions where circumcision may be needed.
Many physicians, rather than routinely recommending circumcision for healthy boys, allow the parents to make the decision after presenting them with the pros and cons.
Alternative Names
Foreskin removal; Removal of foreskin
Description
A numbing medication (local anesthesia) is recommended during the procedure. It might be injected at the base of the penis, in the shaft, or applied as a cream to reduce pain.
There are a variety of ways to perform a circumcision. Most commonly, the foreskin is pushed from the head of the penis and clamped with a metal or plastic ring-like device.
If the ring is metal, the foreskin is cut off and the metal device removed. The circumcision heals in 5-7 days.
If the ring is plastic, a piece of suture is tied tightly around the foreskin. This pushes the tissue into a groove in the plastic over the head of the penis. Within 5-7 days, the plastic covering the penis falls free, leaving a completely healed circumcision.
A sweetened pacifier or lollipop may be given to the baby during the procedure. This may reduce pain. Tylenol (acetaminophen) may be given afterward.
Circumcision of older and adolescent boys is usually done while the child is completely asleep and pain-free (using general anesthesia). The foreskin is removed and stitched onto the remaining skin of the penis. Stitches that will dissolve (absorbable sutures) are used and will be absorbed within 7 to 10 days.
Indications
In some faiths, including Judaism and Islam, circumcisions are performed on all baby boys as a religious rite. In some parts of the world, including Europe, Asia, and South and Central America, circumcision is rare among the general population.
Opinions vary among physicians regarding the need for circumcision in healthy boys. Some place great value on the benefits of an intact foreskin, including a more natural sexual response during adulthood.
However, some studies suggest that uncircumcised male infants have an increased risk of urinary tract infections. Other studies show correlations between being uncircumcised and an increased risk of developing penile cancer, some sexually transmitted diseases including HIV, infections of the penis, and phimosis (tightness of the foreskin, not allowing it to retract over the glans penis). The overall increased risk for these conditions is thought to be relatively small.
Proper hygiene of the penis and safe sexual practices can help prevent phimosis, penile cancer, AIDS, and other sexually transmitted diseases. Proper hygiene is always important, but is thought to be especially important for an uncircumcised male.
The American Academy of Pediatrics revised their policy statement on circumcision in March 1999, and this policy is supported by the American Medical Association. Their summary of the policy is the following:
"Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision. In circumstances in which there are potential benefits and risks, yet the procedure is not essential to the child's current well-being, parents should determine what is in the best interest of the child. To make an informed choice, parents of all male infants should be given accurate and unbiased information and be provided the opportunity to discuss this decision. If a decision for circumcision is made, procedural analgesia should be provided."
Risks
· Bleeding
· Infection
· Localized redness
· Injury to the penis
http://www.myskinclamp.com/?gclid=CPKW86...
Foreskin Restoration
Here are the reasons to restore - outlining why all circumcised men should consider foreskin restoration:
· To restore the foreskin and to become intact, as nature intended, is to create an enhanced sensitivity of the penis and better sexual performance.
· The surface of the glans of the restored penis should be moist, thin and shiny mucous membrane. In the un-restored male it is a dried, thick and dulled protective layer, resulting from years of exposure to the air and rubbing of clothing.
· The extra skin on restored men provides for better intercourse because of the rolling action of the foreskin as opposed to the abrasive sliding action of circumcised men.
· With the use of this product your sexual performance will improve dramatically. No more doctors fees, no more expensive performance enhancing drugs. Foreskin restoration is the key.
· Doctors now acknowledge that there are no hygiene problems associated with restoring your foreskin.
· It is better psychologically for you to restore and feel intact.
· The MySkinClamp foreskin restoration device is manufactured from medical grade stainless steel.
· Click here to see how you can restore your foreskin with the non-surgical MySkinClamp foreskin restorer.
http://www.webmd.com
Top 10 Reasons Men Don't Want Sex
Men always want sex. Right? Wrong. I have often heard the sexual partner of a man say, "My mate doesn't want to have sex. What's wrong with him? Don't all men want sex?" That's a common misunderstanding and it's based on the mistaken belief that men are wired to want sex most times they can get it.
Here's a list of ten common reasons why men may not want sex:
1. Medications. Antidepressants (SSRI-type) and antihypertensives (blood pressure medication) are often the culprit when a man has a lowered interest in sexual activity. These can also cause sexual dysfunction.
2. Lack of sleep. When a man is in his teens or twenties, the opportunity to have sex will often overwhelm the desire to sleep. This is often true also when a relationship is brand new. But, as people and relationships age, sex can lose its compelling nature and a good night's rest can be quite tempting.
3. Hormonal levels. The most important physiological stimulant of sexual desire is testosterone. Many men are mistakenly sent to have a blood test for total testosterone when low libido is the issue. While that information might be interesting to know to have a full picture of a man's hormonal levels, knowing the free testosterone level is much more relevant to how much sex he desires. Also, too much prolactin and SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) can suppress sexual desire. So when a hormonal reason is suspected, these are the blood tests to have (in order of importance): free testosterone, prolactin, SHBG, and total testosterone.
4. Identity issues. When men feel uncertain about their role in the world, their desire for sex can dwindle. Depression may be linked to this, but isn't always. Identity issues can crop up when: he has issues at work or is out of work, faces the death of an important family member, becomes disheartened about a formerly held strong belief, and questions his understanding of his own sexual orientation -- to name a few.
5. Turn-off to aspects of the sex. Some men will turn away from sex rather than have sex that is not fulfilling to them. Lack of fulfillment can be related to specific things that his partner does during sex or how he experiences his partner's body. He may feel criticized or treated unfairly. It may just seem like too much "work." He may have sexual interests that he knows or fears his partner may not share.
6. Disagreements with one's mate. When there are interpersonal difficulties between the members of a couple, many men will avoid sex or just plain refuse their partner's advances. Some men punish their partner by withholding sex, but for others it's not a matter of punishment, they just cannot muster sexual feelings when there are unresolved conflicts.
7. Stress. Stress comes in many forms and may stem from: financial difficulties, personal or family member illness, challenges at work, parenting dilemmas, and issues involving extended family members. Of course, there are many more sources of stress.
8. Masturbation that replaces partnered sex. This is a hot topic since the advent of the Internet. It seems to some researchers in this field that many men who might not have sought out other sources of visual sexual stimulation (magazines, videos, movies) have found their way to locate sexual imagery online. For some couples, this can be a dilemma, particularly when the viewing of the images leads to masturbation, that then leads to less partnered sex. Less partnered sex feels like a blessing to some, but to others it is a frustrating and disappointing outcome.
9. Fear of intimacy. Some men have relationships with their romantic partner that resemble that of siblings. The contact that they experience in their relationship takes the intimacy level up so high that adding sexual intimacy on top of that feels like an overload. Though it may be difficult to imagine that a person could have too much intimacy, it is the hunch of many sex experts today that this is a very common cause of declining sexual frequency in couples.
10. Difficulties functioning sexually. Many men who have an erection dysfunction or believe that they ejaculate too soon -- or too late (if at all), will avoid having sex with their partner. Rather than face what feels like another experience of "failure" in our performance-obssessed culture, these men choose to avoid being sexual at all.
When partnered with a man who does not want sex, the optimal path does not include criticism, belittling, or slurs on his manhood. Armed with accurate information and professional help, most of these causes of sexual avoidance can be greatly improved and in many cases removed altogether.
Reply:The only what you should do is going to that, get a proper medical attention for it. even the type that may mean taking away of your forskin.
Reply:I know many men who have gotten circumcised at your age, a lot younger too. They all say sex in far better and we women love the look.
More and more country's are learning everything is better for circumcised men. Why go through life with a penis that will be only more problems down the road. Only gay old men like foreskin because they are sick in the mind.
The truth is we women love a clean penis and if it has a gross foreskin on it, it is useless.
Reply:(a) try using lubricant ... oil or gel
(b) use condom to stop foreskin moment
(c) if nothing works then circumcise
Reply:YEAA. YOU SHOULD. THERES A REASON WHY BOYS GET CiRCUMCiSED WHEN THEiR BABiES.
Reply:In response to the other post, fewer and fewer babies are getting circumcised. The US is the last remaining advanced country to do it at birth and the rates are going lower; some states as low as 14%.
http://forums.govteen.com/showpost.php?p...
What Mary said, a nurse, well, she works in a hospital or clinic. The only reason guys would go there to remove their foreskin is because they want to; of course they're going to be satisfied. That's like me saying that all foreskin restoration guys end up satisfied, so it's better. Of course they do.
If the stretching doesn't work, there's a cream.
http://www.scielo.br/scielo.php?pid=S167...
It's 0.05% betamethasone and it works on 95% of cases.
Reply:the more cuts in foreskin the more scar tissue, less elasticity. circumcision maybe your only option. if so worried about losing whatever these anti cutting people on here are talking about if it is just the tip of the foreskin that it tight you could have a partial circumcision removing just the tight part. if not circumcision isn't bad. i had it done at 23, am 26 now and sex has only improved. no matter how often it is washed a circumcised one will always be cleaner than uncut. from most opinion polls it is prefered wether for sex, looks or hygeine.
it didn't hurt when i got circumcised. they do use anesthetics and pain meds are readily avaliable now days contrary to what the anti circumcision people on this site try to tell people. thier 'video links' are more often than not procedures filmed in the 80s or by doctors using out dated techniques.
you won't regret it. and your little problem so to speak will be gone. no more painful sex.
Reply:No, circumcision is not your only option. There are many options, but there are also a couple things you must take care of first though.
Before you do anything to remedy your phimosis (a condition where the foreskin opening is too tight/narrow to be retracted fully and easily) you must let your penis heal up. You need to wash the foreskin at least once a day during a shower/bath with mild soap and water. You should also gently dry the area with a towel afterwards. Try to keep the area dry throughout the day if possible. Also, using moisturizing lotion or lotion with aloe vera can help the healing process. You should refrain from doing anything that would move your foreskin a lot - any sexual activity (sex, masturbation, etc). Your foreskin should heal up in a week or two. You don't really need to use antibiotic creams, as that could kill the normal flora of the area and make things worse by causing an imbalance.
Once you're fully healed up, then you should try to remedy your phimosis. First try stretching exercises. In one stretching exercise, take two fingers and kind of hook each finger in two opposite sides of the foreskin opening; then stretch the opening in opposite directions (like increasing its radius) as far as possible without pain or discomfort. Stretch and hold for a few second, then let it relax for a few seconds, then repeat the process for a few minutes each day for several weeks to a month. It's best to do this exercise right after a shower/bath when the skin is most flexible (see link 1 for more info).
If this doesn't work or do much after a month, then you should ask a doctor about prescription creams. In one article, these creams are the most cost-effective treatment a doctor can give you (see link 2).
Lastly, worse comes to worst, and the creams also don't work, then you should probably consider surgical options. This doesn't necessarily mean circumcision, as there are procedures that remove less foreskin, are less painful, have a quicker recovery time, and are cheaper (see link 3). Also, there are varying degrees of circumcision ranging from partial circumcisions that remove almost no foreskin (only the tight part of the foreskin that's causing problems) to removal of the foreskin and even a little bit of shaft skin (see link 4).
See the remaining links for more info on phimosis and stuff. Chances are, if you don't want a circumcision, you won't need one - there are so many alternatives. If you do keep your foreskin, keep it as clean as possible, as that can help prevent future problems and even decrease the possibility of contracting some diseases (see last link).
rhododendron
I am 27 years old male. I am having a lot of trouble during sexual intercourse. My fore skin gets very tight?
Hi,
Application of coconut oil on the glans and then attempting retraction may benefit you. You may try it for a couple of weeks. If the problem still persists, circumcision by a competent plastic surgeon would be the option. However till then, you can wear a condom and then have sexual intercourse. This will prevent any movement of your foreskin and thereby there won’t be any cuts and intercourse would be painless!
Enjoy Life,
Dr.Mojo
Reply:Sounds like Phimosis
http://www.glansie.com/
Many men suffer from phimosis - a tight foreskin which cannot be retracted naturally. Glansie allows you to cure phimosis naturally in the comfort of your own home:
Improve arousal during sexual intercourse
Stop any chance of infection under the foreskin
No surgery, no doctors
Money back guarantee
Phimosis is a medical condition, occurring in many un-circumcised men, in which the foreskin cannot be fully retracted over the head of the penis. The condition is
embarrassing and reduces sensitivity of the penis during sexual intercourse.
Commonly it may also lead to infection of the head of the penis, causing irritation and discharge.
The tightening of the foreskin is caused by a tight preputial ring, a band of fibrous tissue at the end of the foreskin. Glansie allows you to stretch the preputial ring, gradually increasing the amount by which the foreskin can be retracted. This is a completely natural process, accomplished in the comfort of your own home.
Circumcision:
http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/ci...
Definition
Circumcision is the surgical removal of the foreskin of the penis. It is often performed in healthy boys for cultural or religious reasons. In the U.S., circumcision of a newborn boy is usually done before he leaves the hospital. Jewish boys, however, are circumcised when they are 8 days old.
The merits of circumcision are currently under debate. There is NOT a compelling medical rationale for the procedure in healthy boys. However, some boys have medical conditions where circumcision may be needed.
Many physicians, rather than routinely recommending circumcision for healthy boys, allow the parents to make the decision after presenting them with the pros and cons.
Alternative Names
Foreskin removal; Removal of foreskin
Description
A numbing medication (local anesthesia) is recommended during the procedure. It might be injected at the base of the penis, in the shaft, or applied as a cream to reduce pain.
There are a variety of ways to perform a circumcision. Most commonly, the foreskin is pushed from the head of the penis and clamped with a metal or plastic ring-like device.
If the ring is metal, the foreskin is cut off and the metal device removed. The circumcision heals in 5-7 days.
If the ring is plastic, a piece of suture is tied tightly around the foreskin. This pushes the tissue into a groove in the plastic over the head of the penis. Within 5-7 days, the plastic covering the penis falls free, leaving a completely healed circumcision.
A sweetened pacifier or lollipop may be given to the baby during the procedure. This may reduce pain. Tylenol (acetaminophen) may be given afterward.
Circumcision of older and adolescent boys is usually done while the child is completely asleep and pain-free (using general anesthesia). The foreskin is removed and stitched onto the remaining skin of the penis. Stitches that will dissolve (absorbable sutures) are used and will be absorbed within 7 to 10 days.
Indications
In some faiths, including Judaism and Islam, circumcisions are performed on all baby boys as a religious rite. In some parts of the world, including Europe, Asia, and South and Central America, circumcision is rare among the general population.
Opinions vary among physicians regarding the need for circumcision in healthy boys. Some place great value on the benefits of an intact foreskin, including a more natural sexual response during adulthood.
However, some studies suggest that uncircumcised male infants have an increased risk of urinary tract infections. Other studies show correlations between being uncircumcised and an increased risk of developing penile cancer, some sexually transmitted diseases including HIV, infections of the penis, and phimosis (tightness of the foreskin, not allowing it to retract over the glans penis). The overall increased risk for these conditions is thought to be relatively small.
Proper hygiene of the penis and safe sexual practices can help prevent phimosis, penile cancer, AIDS, and other sexually transmitted diseases. Proper hygiene is always important, but is thought to be especially important for an uncircumcised male.
The American Academy of Pediatrics revised their policy statement on circumcision in March 1999, and this policy is supported by the American Medical Association. Their summary of the policy is the following:
"Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision. In circumstances in which there are potential benefits and risks, yet the procedure is not essential to the child's current well-being, parents should determine what is in the best interest of the child. To make an informed choice, parents of all male infants should be given accurate and unbiased information and be provided the opportunity to discuss this decision. If a decision for circumcision is made, procedural analgesia should be provided."
Risks
· Bleeding
· Infection
· Localized redness
· Injury to the penis
http://www.myskinclamp.com/?gclid=CPKW86...
Foreskin Restoration
Here are the reasons to restore - outlining why all circumcised men should consider foreskin restoration:
· To restore the foreskin and to become intact, as nature intended, is to create an enhanced sensitivity of the penis and better sexual performance.
· The surface of the glans of the restored penis should be moist, thin and shiny mucous membrane. In the un-restored male it is a dried, thick and dulled protective layer, resulting from years of exposure to the air and rubbing of clothing.
· The extra skin on restored men provides for better intercourse because of the rolling action of the foreskin as opposed to the abrasive sliding action of circumcised men.
· With the use of this product your sexual performance will improve dramatically. No more doctors fees, no more expensive performance enhancing drugs. Foreskin restoration is the key.
· Doctors now acknowledge that there are no hygiene problems associated with restoring your foreskin.
· It is better psychologically for you to restore and feel intact.
· The MySkinClamp foreskin restoration device is manufactured from medical grade stainless steel.
· Click here to see how you can restore your foreskin with the non-surgical MySkinClamp foreskin restorer.
http://www.webmd.com
Top 10 Reasons Men Don't Want Sex
Men always want sex. Right? Wrong. I have often heard the sexual partner of a man say, "My mate doesn't want to have sex. What's wrong with him? Don't all men want sex?" That's a common misunderstanding and it's based on the mistaken belief that men are wired to want sex most times they can get it.
Here's a list of ten common reasons why men may not want sex:
1. Medications. Antidepressants (SSRI-type) and antihypertensives (blood pressure medication) are often the culprit when a man has a lowered interest in sexual activity. These can also cause sexual dysfunction.
2. Lack of sleep. When a man is in his teens or twenties, the opportunity to have sex will often overwhelm the desire to sleep. This is often true also when a relationship is brand new. But, as people and relationships age, sex can lose its compelling nature and a good night's rest can be quite tempting.
3. Hormonal levels. The most important physiological stimulant of sexual desire is testosterone. Many men are mistakenly sent to have a blood test for total testosterone when low libido is the issue. While that information might be interesting to know to have a full picture of a man's hormonal levels, knowing the free testosterone level is much more relevant to how much sex he desires. Also, too much prolactin and SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) can suppress sexual desire. So when a hormonal reason is suspected, these are the blood tests to have (in order of importance): free testosterone, prolactin, SHBG, and total testosterone.
4. Identity issues. When men feel uncertain about their role in the world, their desire for sex can dwindle. Depression may be linked to this, but isn't always. Identity issues can crop up when: he has issues at work or is out of work, faces the death of an important family member, becomes disheartened about a formerly held strong belief, and questions his understanding of his own sexual orientation -- to name a few.
5. Turn-off to aspects of the sex. Some men will turn away from sex rather than have sex that is not fulfilling to them. Lack of fulfillment can be related to specific things that his partner does during sex or how he experiences his partner's body. He may feel criticized or treated unfairly. It may just seem like too much "work." He may have sexual interests that he knows or fears his partner may not share.
6. Disagreements with one's mate. When there are interpersonal difficulties between the members of a couple, many men will avoid sex or just plain refuse their partner's advances. Some men punish their partner by withholding sex, but for others it's not a matter of punishment, they just cannot muster sexual feelings when there are unresolved conflicts.
7. Stress. Stress comes in many forms and may stem from: financial difficulties, personal or family member illness, challenges at work, parenting dilemmas, and issues involving extended family members. Of course, there are many more sources of stress.
8. Masturbation that replaces partnered sex. This is a hot topic since the advent of the Internet. It seems to some researchers in this field that many men who might not have sought out other sources of visual sexual stimulation (magazines, videos, movies) have found their way to locate sexual imagery online. For some couples, this can be a dilemma, particularly when the viewing of the images leads to masturbation, that then leads to less partnered sex. Less partnered sex feels like a blessing to some, but to others it is a frustrating and disappointing outcome.
9. Fear of intimacy. Some men have relationships with their romantic partner that resemble that of siblings. The contact that they experience in their relationship takes the intimacy level up so high that adding sexual intimacy on top of that feels like an overload. Though it may be difficult to imagine that a person could have too much intimacy, it is the hunch of many sex experts today that this is a very common cause of declining sexual frequency in couples.
10. Difficulties functioning sexually. Many men who have an erection dysfunction or believe that they ejaculate too soon -- or too late (if at all), will avoid having sex with their partner. Rather than face what feels like another experience of "failure" in our performance-obssessed culture, these men choose to avoid being sexual at all.
When partnered with a man who does not want sex, the optimal path does not include criticism, belittling, or slurs on his manhood. Armed with accurate information and professional help, most of these causes of sexual avoidance can be greatly improved and in many cases removed altogether.
Reply:The only what you should do is going to that, get a proper medical attention for it. even the type that may mean taking away of your forskin.
Reply:I know many men who have gotten circumcised at your age, a lot younger too. They all say sex in far better and we women love the look.
More and more country's are learning everything is better for circumcised men. Why go through life with a penis that will be only more problems down the road. Only gay old men like foreskin because they are sick in the mind.
The truth is we women love a clean penis and if it has a gross foreskin on it, it is useless.
Reply:(a) try using lubricant ... oil or gel
(b) use condom to stop foreskin moment
(c) if nothing works then circumcise
Reply:YEAA. YOU SHOULD. THERES A REASON WHY BOYS GET CiRCUMCiSED WHEN THEiR BABiES.
Reply:In response to the other post, fewer and fewer babies are getting circumcised. The US is the last remaining advanced country to do it at birth and the rates are going lower; some states as low as 14%.
http://forums.govteen.com/showpost.php?p...
What Mary said, a nurse, well, she works in a hospital or clinic. The only reason guys would go there to remove their foreskin is because they want to; of course they're going to be satisfied. That's like me saying that all foreskin restoration guys end up satisfied, so it's better. Of course they do.
If the stretching doesn't work, there's a cream.
http://www.scielo.br/scielo.php?pid=S167...
It's 0.05% betamethasone and it works on 95% of cases.
Reply:the more cuts in foreskin the more scar tissue, less elasticity. circumcision maybe your only option. if so worried about losing whatever these anti cutting people on here are talking about if it is just the tip of the foreskin that it tight you could have a partial circumcision removing just the tight part. if not circumcision isn't bad. i had it done at 23, am 26 now and sex has only improved. no matter how often it is washed a circumcised one will always be cleaner than uncut. from most opinion polls it is prefered wether for sex, looks or hygeine.
it didn't hurt when i got circumcised. they do use anesthetics and pain meds are readily avaliable now days contrary to what the anti circumcision people on this site try to tell people. thier 'video links' are more often than not procedures filmed in the 80s or by doctors using out dated techniques.
you won't regret it. and your little problem so to speak will be gone. no more painful sex.
Reply:No, circumcision is not your only option. There are many options, but there are also a couple things you must take care of first though.
Before you do anything to remedy your phimosis (a condition where the foreskin opening is too tight/narrow to be retracted fully and easily) you must let your penis heal up. You need to wash the foreskin at least once a day during a shower/bath with mild soap and water. You should also gently dry the area with a towel afterwards. Try to keep the area dry throughout the day if possible. Also, using moisturizing lotion or lotion with aloe vera can help the healing process. You should refrain from doing anything that would move your foreskin a lot - any sexual activity (sex, masturbation, etc). Your foreskin should heal up in a week or two. You don't really need to use antibiotic creams, as that could kill the normal flora of the area and make things worse by causing an imbalance.
Once you're fully healed up, then you should try to remedy your phimosis. First try stretching exercises. In one stretching exercise, take two fingers and kind of hook each finger in two opposite sides of the foreskin opening; then stretch the opening in opposite directions (like increasing its radius) as far as possible without pain or discomfort. Stretch and hold for a few second, then let it relax for a few seconds, then repeat the process for a few minutes each day for several weeks to a month. It's best to do this exercise right after a shower/bath when the skin is most flexible (see link 1 for more info).
If this doesn't work or do much after a month, then you should ask a doctor about prescription creams. In one article, these creams are the most cost-effective treatment a doctor can give you (see link 2).
Lastly, worse comes to worst, and the creams also don't work, then you should probably consider surgical options. This doesn't necessarily mean circumcision, as there are procedures that remove less foreskin, are less painful, have a quicker recovery time, and are cheaper (see link 3). Also, there are varying degrees of circumcision ranging from partial circumcisions that remove almost no foreskin (only the tight part of the foreskin that's causing problems) to removal of the foreskin and even a little bit of shaft skin (see link 4).
See the remaining links for more info on phimosis and stuff. Chances are, if you don't want a circumcision, you won't need one - there are so many alternatives. If you do keep your foreskin, keep it as clean as possible, as that can help prevent future problems and even decrease the possibility of contracting some diseases (see last link).
rhododendron
Tight skin during dance practice?
today was the first day of dance for the musical and I noticed the skin on my thumbs was red and swollen and when I pressed down it tingled a little, and the same with my other fingers but less obvious. I ran them under warm water and held them over my head but nothing helped. They still feel enflamed and sort of hot.
The only thing different is that I used the schools soap to wash my hands once, but that was about 11:00 and it didn't start until 2:30. I haven't eaten anything different, so I don't know.
What is causing this? Is it normal? How can I prevent it? Thanks!
Tight skin during dance practice?
hand swelling during exercise is actually really common due to more blood flow in the hands (and the rest of the body). There's not really anything you can do to prevent the swellling, but applying lotion after practice or soaking them in warm water seems to help mine. Just be sure to remove your jewelry before to reduce discomfort.
The only thing different is that I used the schools soap to wash my hands once, but that was about 11:00 and it didn't start until 2:30. I haven't eaten anything different, so I don't know.
What is causing this? Is it normal? How can I prevent it? Thanks!
Tight skin during dance practice?
hand swelling during exercise is actually really common due to more blood flow in the hands (and the rest of the body). There's not really anything you can do to prevent the swellling, but applying lotion after practice or soaking them in warm water seems to help mine. Just be sure to remove your jewelry before to reduce discomfort.
If a girl comes over to your house in a shirt that shows off her perky boobs and skin tight pants........?
is that a sign that she wants to **** you-she also mentioned that the day before she bought a new bra
If a girl comes over to your house in a shirt that shows off her perky boobs and skin tight pants........?
flirt with her and see where it goes.
Reply:ooooooooooooooooffffffffffffffffffffffff... yeh sexy batein
Reply:yep, shes a hoe
Reply:what amanda said...
Reply:She wants you.
Reply:YEAH SHE WANT TO GET DOWN. GO FOR IT
Reply:yep, only one thing on her mind
Reply:SHE COULD BE TEASING YOU
Reply:yep. sounds like she wants you to me. let us know how it goes. lol
Reply:check out the big brain on Bob!..you're dumb enough to ask.
Reply:maybe she just wants to look good for you~! Doesn't mean she wants sex. At least now right away! Sometimes a girl has to do to keep the guys attention!!
If a girl comes over to your house in a shirt that shows off her perky boobs and skin tight pants........?
flirt with her and see where it goes.
Reply:ooooooooooooooooffffffffffffffffffffffff... yeh sexy batein
Reply:yep, shes a hoe
Reply:what amanda said...
Reply:She wants you.
Reply:YEAH SHE WANT TO GET DOWN. GO FOR IT
Reply:yep, only one thing on her mind
Reply:SHE COULD BE TEASING YOU
Reply:yep. sounds like she wants you to me. let us know how it goes. lol
Reply:check out the big brain on Bob!..you're dumb enough to ask.
Reply:maybe she just wants to look good for you~! Doesn't mean she wants sex. At least now right away! Sometimes a girl has to do to keep the guys attention!!
My husband is malado and I am fair skin. He has tight curls and I have straight hair.?
Can you please let me know if my baby will look more malado with tight curls OR will have straight hair. What color skin tone will it have. Very curious awaiting mother.
My husband is malado and I am fair skin. He has tight curls and I have straight hair.?
Mulatto??
Probably will look mulatto, meaning mixed.
Reply:Could be either really. It depends on which genes are more dominant. You should stop worrying. I'm sure you'll have a beautiful baby.
Reply:I hope you have a healthy baby and you love him or her no matter what he or she looks like.
Reply:Nobody can tell you that.
Reply:You will find out when the baby is born.
Reply:I think you're going to have to wait until the baby is actually born. People can take guesses based on what you said, but there is no sure way of knowing.
Reply:There is really not a sure way of being able to forecast something like that! Genetics are strange! For example-I am Portuguese and Italian-with dark features-eyes, hair, etc...my ex-husband is African American. We have 3 boys together who amazingly look nothing like one another! My oldest is fair complected, with hazel eyes, and his hair has some curl to it. My middle son, is extremely dark complected with dark features and straight hair. While my youngest has a complexion in between his brother's and very curly hair. So, in a nutshell, there really isn't a way to predetermine what feature will be dominant in your child. If I gave my opinion, I would assume your child would be fairly light complected who's hair will have texture and body-possibly more wavy than curly.
Reply:It`s all about jeans.Some peoples are stronger than others.The rest is,to me,up to God.You may be able to get or take a test and find out.They have a test for almost everything now a days.
Reply:well, you never know till the baby is here.
i know a baby who's mom is white, very fair skinned, light red hair, and the dad is african american, dark skin, dark tight curly hair.
the baby is very fair skinned, dark hair, and very loose curly hair.
Reply:You will have to wait to find out! My husbands mother is white and his father black. I am white and my husbands skin is pretty light brown. Our first son was born with black hair and blue eyes. At about 6 months, he had blonde curly hair and green eyes! Plus, he is whiter than me. Our second son was born with black hair and black eyes, and now he is 1 and has gotten curly hair and is darker skinned than my husband! So, you never really know how they will turn out and that is the beauty of having a mixed family!
My husband is malado and I am fair skin. He has tight curls and I have straight hair.?
Mulatto??
Probably will look mulatto, meaning mixed.
Reply:Could be either really. It depends on which genes are more dominant. You should stop worrying. I'm sure you'll have a beautiful baby.
Reply:I hope you have a healthy baby and you love him or her no matter what he or she looks like.
Reply:Nobody can tell you that.
Reply:You will find out when the baby is born.
Reply:I think you're going to have to wait until the baby is actually born. People can take guesses based on what you said, but there is no sure way of knowing.
Reply:There is really not a sure way of being able to forecast something like that! Genetics are strange! For example-I am Portuguese and Italian-with dark features-eyes, hair, etc...my ex-husband is African American. We have 3 boys together who amazingly look nothing like one another! My oldest is fair complected, with hazel eyes, and his hair has some curl to it. My middle son, is extremely dark complected with dark features and straight hair. While my youngest has a complexion in between his brother's and very curly hair. So, in a nutshell, there really isn't a way to predetermine what feature will be dominant in your child. If I gave my opinion, I would assume your child would be fairly light complected who's hair will have texture and body-possibly more wavy than curly.
Reply:It`s all about jeans.Some peoples are stronger than others.The rest is,to me,up to God.You may be able to get or take a test and find out.They have a test for almost everything now a days.
Reply:well, you never know till the baby is here.
i know a baby who's mom is white, very fair skinned, light red hair, and the dad is african american, dark skin, dark tight curly hair.
the baby is very fair skinned, dark hair, and very loose curly hair.
Reply:You will have to wait to find out! My husbands mother is white and his father black. I am white and my husbands skin is pretty light brown. Our first son was born with black hair and blue eyes. At about 6 months, he had blonde curly hair and green eyes! Plus, he is whiter than me. Our second son was born with black hair and black eyes, and now he is 1 and has gotten curly hair and is darker skinned than my husband! So, you never really know how they will turn out and that is the beauty of having a mixed family!
Where can I have custom made boots produced for my wife? I am looking for thigh high skin tight.?
Depends on where you live.. really.
In the USA... This place will do custom measurements...
http://www.sexyshoes4less.com/thighboots...
This next place does custom heel height..
http://www.eleveneast.com/Merchant2/merc...
This next one does custom styled boots... but you have to be able to go to their Ohio studio for fittings..
http://www.consentmag.com/SecretCloset/B...
This next one deals in latex and rubber and does custom sizing..
http://www.l8tex.com/nonadult/enter.html...
All in all.. it depends where you live and what you want.. exactly.
Where can I have custom made boots produced for my wife? I am looking for thigh high skin tight.?
fredricks of hollywood
Reply:why would you want your wife to have fake boobs ... do u know that your wife can die sooner with fack boobs the stuff they use for the fake boobs have something in it that if they have a hole in them it can get in her blood and it can kill her do u want that? and the way i see it if you love your wife then love her the way she is dont make her get fake boobs just to make you happy cause that tell me that you dont love your wife for who she is... thank about it and thank hard too.
Reply:I dont know what your financial situation is but custom boots are not cheap especially the type you describe. I have two pair both bought for me by a former partner and they were expensive and they were not custom made...i suggest you try a GOOD shoemaker...if they cant do it they will know people who can....internet sourses may help but your partner will need to be measured and all for an exact fit.
star of bethlehem
In the USA... This place will do custom measurements...
http://www.sexyshoes4less.com/thighboots...
This next place does custom heel height..
http://www.eleveneast.com/Merchant2/merc...
This next one does custom styled boots... but you have to be able to go to their Ohio studio for fittings..
http://www.consentmag.com/SecretCloset/B...
This next one deals in latex and rubber and does custom sizing..
http://www.l8tex.com/nonadult/enter.html...
All in all.. it depends where you live and what you want.. exactly.
Where can I have custom made boots produced for my wife? I am looking for thigh high skin tight.?
fredricks of hollywood
Reply:why would you want your wife to have fake boobs ... do u know that your wife can die sooner with fack boobs the stuff they use for the fake boobs have something in it that if they have a hole in them it can get in her blood and it can kill her do u want that? and the way i see it if you love your wife then love her the way she is dont make her get fake boobs just to make you happy cause that tell me that you dont love your wife for who she is... thank about it and thank hard too.
Reply:I dont know what your financial situation is but custom boots are not cheap especially the type you describe. I have two pair both bought for me by a former partner and they were expensive and they were not custom made...i suggest you try a GOOD shoemaker...if they cant do it they will know people who can....internet sourses may help but your partner will need to be measured and all for an exact fit.
star of bethlehem
What's the name of the man who had a tv show in which he wore a skin tight outfit with innards drawn on it?
It was an educational program that focused on health.
What's the name of the man who had a tv show in which he wore a skin tight outfit with innards drawn on it?
That's John Burstein. His TV show/character was called "Slim Goodbody".
EDIT: The show was actually called "Inside Story". I always thought of it as the Slim Goodbody show when I was watching it; I was five or so at the time.
Reply:The Naked Man
Reply:richard simmons....lol
Reply:Slim Goodbody!!!!
Reply:dont know dont wanna know!
What's the name of the man who had a tv show in which he wore a skin tight outfit with innards drawn on it?
That's John Burstein. His TV show/character was called "Slim Goodbody".
EDIT: The show was actually called "Inside Story". I always thought of it as the Slim Goodbody show when I was watching it; I was five or so at the time.
Reply:The Naked Man
Reply:richard simmons....lol
Reply:Slim Goodbody!!!!
Reply:dont know dont wanna know!
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